Your Child Did What?

A Short Guide into the Mind of A Child

Understanding your child can often be a tough and tiring task, but it doesn’t have to be. With a few key tools to gain insight into the mind of your favourite human being, you can learn a lot about what they’re going through every day. From simple conversations to cultural exploration, there are a lot of opportunities out there for you to use.

Here are four that we highly recommend:

1. Observation
Human beings are creatures of habit; habits that start from a very early age. And the easiest way to identify these is to focus on specific areas, without invading your youngster’s freedom. As an example, try and look for the things that they like to do and the people they admire. This will give you a slightly clearer idea of how they think, and what they are naturally inclined to do. A very important part of this is for you to stay objective and work towards a relationship that’s free from judgment.

2. Talk second, listen first
If you can get your child to ramble in the car on the way home from school, you will discover a lot more about them than you might think. The trick here is to listen out for more than just what they say. Listen to how they process a situation, their big areas of concern and what they plan to do about it. Instead of giving them advice, ask the questions that will help them come to a conclusion of their own. Of course, if they decide to do something drastic, make sure you step in to offer sound advice.

3. Take interest
As your child grows up, they will start to like certain types of music, film and art. This is all reflective of who they are as a person. You can also see this in the subjects they enjoy most at school. Here, your job is to do some research of your own. Take an interest in their interests and you will find it much easier to start a compelling conversation with your child. Seriously, you could end up with a very positive response that will help you learn a lot!

4. Never Compare
If you compare your child to someone else you are setting yourself up for failure. Sure, you can watch other children and learn from them, but your child is totally unique. Comparing them to someone else will not work! Especially, if you do it in a conversation with them; then they know you’re watching. Then they think they can’t escape. Then your relationship is in trouble. Instead, ask them why a friend reacted in a certain way and what they thought about it. This way you can bond while you learn about others and each other.


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